You’re out on a Friday night with your frat boys. You decide to hit a club, hoping you’ll meet some women who are up for some Friday night fun, aka sex. It’s easy after all, right? Porn movies even show traffic officers being able to get into a woman’s pants and have sex on the car’s hood. It’s not going to be that bad – or is it?
According to various experiments, most men are more likely to agree to have sex with a total stranger compared to most women. Well, there is no surprise in that. But, when a gorgeous woman walking down the street approaches a man, the majority are willing to go to her place for a drink, while 83 percent are ready to get it on, no questions asked.
However, stranger sex is not as easy as it seems. There are a lot of factors to consider, such as your safety, your security, and even the possibility of getting a sexually transmitted disease. When the situation calls for it, here are some things you need to remember.
1. Set Your Intentions
This is the first and oftentimes neglected tip by most people when it comes to stranger sex. Fine, you can have sex all you want, but you need to set your intentions first.
Are you looking for a long-term relationship? Or do you simply want to get laid with no strings attached? When it comes to stranger sex, you always have to go with the second one. There is physical pleasure, but emotional baggage goes right out of the window.
Keep in mind that building a relationship requires time and getting to know the person first. When you started ripping each other’s clothes off in a public restroom while other people are banging at the door because they want to pee, then of course, it’s going to be difficult to establish a relationship. If you are looking for casual sex, then just stick to that and nothing else. After all, stranger sex and a long-term relationship are two areas that don’t go well together.
2. Consider Your Location
The easiest way to get stranger sex is to go somewhere public, make friends with a girl you want and do it in the backseat of your car, or in a public restroom if you two can’t wait. However, not everyone is game for that. Hence, find out what you are most comfortable with in terms of meeting strangers and having casual sex.
The truth is, there are many ways to do this. If you’re not into clubs, coffee shops or hitting someone right on the spot, you can always go to the World Wide Web for resources.
There are tons of dating and sex websites available, which you can sign up for free. Once you set your profile, you can start your fishing expedition.
The good thing about dating websites is that there is a higher probability of meeting like-minded individuals, so you won’t have trouble looking for someone who is willing to do it. Once you meet the right one, at least for casual sex, decide on a neutral place, such as a hotel. Never, ever do it in your or her place, especially if it’s the first time you’ll do it – for security and safety reasons, of course.
You never know this person and what she is capable of doing and the last thing you need to do is end up having to file charges against her. Oh, and always bring your mobile phone with you. If you can also tell someone where you are going, then that’s even better.
3. Know Your Boundaries
Men are supposed to love and worship sex. However, this doesn’t mean you can have sex with any random girl just because everyone else is doing it. Come on. You’re old enough to know what you can and cannot do.
In this case, always respect your boundaries. If your conscience is telling you not to hook up with a stranger and it makes you feel bad just at the thought of doing it, then don’t do it. No one is forcing you to do it. You are in control of your sexuality and your own body, so listen to your gut.
On the other hand, if you feel you can handle sex with no feelings of regret the following morning, then sure, go ahead. However, you still need to set some boundaries for yourself. Keep in mind that stranger sex, although fun and enjoyable, has risks, too. Since you are not in a monogamous relationship, chances are the girl you are sleeping with has done it with several men, putting you more at risk of STDs, or even HIV.
Plus, there is a possibility of getting her pregnant, which is something you definitely don’t want. Or else, you’ll end up raising a child with a stranger or worse, terminating the pregnancy to make your lives easier. Therefore, make sure to wear protection at all times, even if the girl says she is on pills. This is part of setting your boundaries. Plus, it’s better to be safe than sorry, don’t you think?
4. Pick Your Standards
One of the benefits of stranger sex is that you get laid and fulfill some of your sexual fantasies, sans the drama and stress of being in a relationship. It makes you feel in control and allows you to express what you want with no one around to judge you. In other words, it is a no strings attached kind of set-up where both parties agree to it.
Still, this doesn’t mean you can just pick up anyone from the crowd, small talk her for a few minutes and bring her at the back door for some 20-minute action. Then repeat cycle 10 times but with 10 different girls – all in one night. The succeeding nights are a different story and location.
Therefore, pick your standards. Just because you agreed to this type of sex, you can’t just go for any girl you see on the streets. Remember the boundaries rule? Do that. There is no need to lower your standards just to get laid. Otherwise, where is the respect in that?
It won’t hurt if you make a choice on whom to bang, in case you want to be that blunt. It won’t hurt, too, if you talk to the lady first and see how things will go and where it will lead you. By having a little chitchat, you will be able to assess the situation and determine if you are both on the same page. If you feel that she’s not that into it, then it’s not too late for you to get out of there.
Does this mean you have to make your checklist? Not necessarily. When you find someone good-looking, smart enough to talk to and game for some action, then you’re probably good to go.
5. Don’t Obsess Over Stranger Sex
This is the hardest part when engaging yourself in stranger sex. As much as you want to keep it casual and stick to the no strings attached rule, there are instances where you find yourself getting caught up in the situation and actually falling in love with the girl.
Well, that’s not supposed to happen. Just because you had a good time with someone and connected well in bed, that does not mean you could turn this thing into a relationship. Don’t forget your intentions, which is the first tip you need to follow in stranger sex.
You might agree that some one night stands can also lead to a relationship. In fact, you have some friends who fell in love with their fuck buddies, too. Well, sure, it can happen, but don’t bank on it. There is a higher chance that she’ll break your heart, so keep your expectations low, which leads you to the last tip.
6. Have fun
This is the ultimate goal in stranger sex – to have fun. Again, the best thing about engaging in stranger sex is that you can do whatever you want and be able to fulfill your fantasies without anyone judging you. You’re having sex with a stranger, after all. You might not see them after that night so go ahead and bring out your best cards on the table.
Of course, keep your expectations low. Having sex with a stranger does not equate to having sex with a porn star. If you are lucky, you might find someone who is willing to do everything in the Joy of Sex book, but that’s rare.
The point is, enjoy the moment. Do things you didn’t normally do with your past girlfriends. Be adventurous and don’t be afraid to experiment. Savor the moment while it lasts. Just have fun.
There are two sides of the coin when it comes to stranger sex. At the end of the day, it all boils down to your personal choice. If you feel this can boost your ego, then go ahead and be the man of the house. Just make sure to play it safe, keep it casual and enjoy the moment. You can only do this when you have the right mindset.